Children are born innocent. Children are truth full, joy full and full of curiosity. They want only to be loved, to learn, and to contribute. This is true that Children are our future so we need to spend more time on nourishment and development of our children. Children bring freshness into the world. Children are new editions of consciousness. Children are fresh entries of divinity into life. Be respectful, be understanding. Now a day’s everyone wants to teach their children to be ahead in this competitive world.
Have you ever think – Is this enough for your children?
Osho have also shared his viewpoint on children’s development but his point of view is broader than anyone else. He talked about children’s development as well as spiritual development in children which will help children to be more joy full and aware. According to Osho –
• First: he clears the fact that if you think children are belonging to you then you are wrong. They come through you, you have been a passage but they don’t belong to you. They are not your possessions.
If parents are aware, conscious and alert then they will wait for the child to grow up so that he can choose.
• Happy Parents = Happy children
If you really want to develop your child positively then you need to be happy first because happiness create lot of positive vibrations which are in turn reduce stress, strain and tension. Start by being aware and you will be happy!
• They have their vision, their understanding, their ways. Try to understand them. An understanding mind will always find a deep harmony arising between him and the child.
• Osho says, as we start educating the child’s intellect, we should also teach him meditation. Just as the child comes to understand science, he should simultaneously understand religion. “As is head grows brighter let his heart also grow full of light. Let him not grow up only to know about, let him grow up also to be. Let it not be only his possessions that grow, let him grow too! Let not only his exterior expand, let his interiority also have a depth, just as the trees rise up in the sky but their roots go deep underground. The deeper the roots go underground the higher the tree rises in the sky.”
• Give your children meditation as well as thinking. Thinking will help them to be successful in the world, and meditation will help them towards success in the divine. Give them thought to sharpen their intellects, give them meditation to nurture the sacred in their hearts. The most important phenomenon in the world happens where the sacredness of the heart meets the activeness of the intellect. In that meeting, activity and inactivity balance each other, the day and the night both cease to be and you start catching glimpses of that which lies beyond both life and death.
• And always remember: children are not adult; you should not expect adult things from children. They are children! They have a totally different vision, a different perspective. You should not start forcing your adult-ish attitudes upon them. Allow them to remain, children, because they will never be again; and once lost, everybody feels nostalgia for the childhood, everybody feels those days were days of paradise. Don’t disturb them.
Sometimes it is difficult for you to accept the children’s vision — because you have lost it yourself! The child wants to go out in the rains and wants to run around the streets in the rain, and you are afraid he may catch a cold or get pneumonia or something — and your fear is right! So DO something so that he is more resistant to colds. Take him to the doctor; ask the doctor what vitamins should be given to him so that he can run in the rains and enjoy and dance and there is no fear that he will catch a cold or will get pneumonia. But don’t stop him. To dance in the streets when it is raining is such a joy! To miss, it is to miss something very valuable. If you know happiness and if you are aware, you will be able to feel for the child, how he feels.
And I am not saying that the child has always to be allowed to disturb you. But out of a hundred times, ninety times you are unnecessarily disturbed. And if you don’t disturb him those ninety times, the child will understand. When you understand the child, the child understands you — children are very responsive. When the child sees that he is never prevented, then once you say, “I am doing something please…” the child will know that it is not from a parent who is constantly looking to shout at him. It is from a parent who allows everything.
Excerpted from Walk Without Feet, Fly Without Wings and Think Without Mind/ courtesy Osho international foundation/www.osho.com and Communism and Zen Fire, Zen Wind