Now, every relationship becomes complex. Everyone is disturbed by others. Everyone is judging others instead of spending time on their self. We all are lacking in Self Awareness. We all are suffering from a disease “EGO”. Ego is killing love in relationship and hatred feelings are growing among people. Sri Sri Ravi Shanker had thrown a light on “How to deal with Ego”. He discussed how ego is creating problems and what all solutions are there to solve ego problems.
- When is there Ego?
- When you don’t get attention.
- When you seem to be losing attention.
- When you get attention (Laughter).
Ego causes heaviness, discomfort. It doesn’t let love flow. Ego can be transcended by knowing the truth; by enquiring” who am I?” often, your attitude towards one who has ego is of contempt or jealousy. But rather you should have compassion or even pity, isn’t it?
There is also a positive aspect of ego. It drives one to do some work. A person will do a job either out of compassion or out of ego. Most of the work in the society is by boosting the ego. But in Satsang, work is done out of love. Ego is separateness, non-belongingness. It wants to prove and to possess. When you wake up and see, there is nothing to be proved and nothing to possess, ego dissolves.
Solution for ego clashes
When egos are there, they do clash. There is no way out. When there is wisdom, you will rise above any small-minded attitude, bickering, and judgments.
You judge people all the time, and if you turn back and look at your own judgments, I tell you, 80 to 90% of the time, they will be wrong. Sometimes people send some messages and before the other person gets it, they retract it. How many of you have done that? You type a message to send to someone, and something tells you that this is not okay and so you retract it. How many of you do this? This shows how poor your judgments are.
We create a huge cloud around what is not even close to the truth, and it has happened to you so many times in the past. You hold grudges against people, you have concepts about people and you get yourself trapped into it. You must wake up from this. You know, if your time is good, your worst enemy behaves like a friend, and if your times are bad, your closest friend behaves like an enemy. So, your luck or time is totally responsible for your friends and enemies. Your karma is responsible for what you go through. So, you should take your mind away from judging others and bring it to yourself.
Often people, who complain that others have a big ego, have a big ego themselves. Often those who complain others are rude, you will see somewhere inside, they are rude. You should reflect on yourself. See, you can’t correct others but others give you a chance to correct yourself.